Friday, November 21, 2014

Huge Firestorm Over Barbie's New Book

A mother bought her two small daughters a book called Barbie: A Computer Engineer. Barbie begins having trouble with her laptop because a virus collapsed it. Two of her male friends come over. "It will go faster if Brian and I help," offers Steven. "Great!" says Barbie. The boys fix the computer for her. Nice story, right? Wrong!

A woman wrote a blog in response to the book and it that went viral. {I won't link to it since it uses foul language.} This blog called this book "insulting" and "dangerous for young minds." Online people completely agreed and one woman wrote, "Thank you, Barbie...for showing me that it's A-OK for women to sit back and let men take care of everything." Another editor of something replied, "We want our young girls to feel they're capable for anything and everything without question."

The Barbie book's author was shocked at the reaction. She made Barbie's friends males "since computer technology is a male dominated no way trying to degrade women by doing that." Mattel, the publishers responded, "The book was published in 2010. Since that time we have reworked our Barbie books. The portrayal of Barbie in this specific story doesn't reflect what Barbie stands for..." Mattel has said that the book has been discontinued. {source}

Therefore, a blog post went viral because it portrayed Barbie as the helpless victim who needed boys "gasp" to come to her rescue. THIS used to be the story line for many romantic books and movies in the past. Men would ride in on their horses and rescue damsels in distress. Oh no! Not for today's liberated women. We need to be able to fix everything and do everything by ourselves because, "We are women. Hear us roar!"

You can't even find this book on Amazon anymore last I looked because this will just destroy young girls and cause them to think that men can help them or maybe even rescue them. We have SO emasculated men and their roles as protectors and providers that it is downright UGLY and we wonder why men no longer want to open doors or treat us with respect!

I LOVE that Ken can fix the computer when it breaks. He fixes many things for me and I appreciate it so much. I like having a man around to help in time of need. I can't lift heavy things so I ask the men in my life to help. They'll put up my Christmas tree for me next week. They change my heavy water filters for me when they need changing. My boys use to change the oil in our cars. They even open jars for me! Men are the ones who build homes, buildings, jets, highways, etc. They are the mechanics, electricians, and plumbers. I have NEVER minded calling a man to fix any of these things. Have you?

I'm sorry but this has gone too far. Everyone gets offended over anything and everything. Gays want the Duggars off of television because they believe in traditional marriage the way God intended it to be. Little girl books get pulled off of shelves because boys come and help Barbie. Am I going crazy or is this sheer stupidity???

Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; 
that put darkness for light, and light for darkness;
 that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!
Isaiah 5:20

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Does Having Too Many Children Steal Your Life?

For some reason, today's "enlightened" woman feels like she can only handle a few children. They are expensive, time consuming, and exhausting. She desperately "wants" a life and too many children would steal that life she craves.

I have watched the Duggars with 19 children, the Bates with 19 children, and another family in Colorado with many children who live in a large trailer type home. I have read about the journals of a mother in Illinois who lives in a trailer on a homestead with an amazing marriage and all nine of her children are growing up walking with Jesus. When Alyssa was with Ballet Magnificat in Mississippi, she would bump into many homeschooling families with many children and tell me they were the most well-behaved children. One of her ballet friends who came from a very large family was the most generous, kind person she had ever met.

Erin from Keeper Of The Homestead has five children, keeps a very clean home, home schools her children, runs a homestead and a successful blog, and helps others in need yet lives in daily physical pain. Also, at the young age of 32, she found out she could no longer have any more children and she grieved. She knew it was a privilege to have children and raise them for the Lord.

The majority of these families do not have a lot of family around to support them. What I have noticed about them, however, is that the Lord always provides for them. They are well-nourished, body and soul. The husbands and wives work hard and raise children that are not afraid to work.

We think that if we don't do it our way {have only a few children in our timing}, we won't be happy {have lots of free time to do as we please}. We forget our purpose in life is to be living sacrifices and live lives that bring glory to the Lord. Having children and raising them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord is glorifying to Him.

Kelly Crawford is a mother of ten children. She has a blog which is one of my very favorite blogs. She doesn't write often but when she does, they are very good. She recently wrote about the misconceptions that other people have about mothers who have many children. One of the main misconceptions I hear is that they must be "superwoman" and have an abundance of energy. Her answer ~

Not at all. None of those things. From my vantage point, I’d say one reason the Lord has given me 10 children is because I need such a constant lesson in patience. We haven’t been given anything extraordinary that helps us cope with a passel of children. We just rely on fall desperately upon God’s grace and take one day at a time. And like any other circumstance, we do the next thing, figuring out what works as we go.

God speaks about a man that has many children this way ~

Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
 Psalm 127:5

God thinks having many children is a good thing, a very good thing. If He views this as something good, we should also and depend upon His strength and His provision to be able to love and care for these little eternal beings that He blesses us with.

***This article states that there are groups that want to get rid of the Duggar's show on television because they stand up for Truth. Please sign this petition to keep them on television and their right to stand for traditional marriage. 

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Superwoman Gives Way to Tiredness

One of the founders of the modern day Feminist Movement and I have found some common ground. Betty Friedan wrote in her last book, The Second Stage, “I sense the exhilaration of 'superwomen' giving way to a tiredness, a certain brittle disappointment, a disillusionment with 'assertiveness training' and the rewards of power. The equality we fought for isn't livable, isn't workable, isn't comfortable, in terms that structured our battle.”

No, Betty Friedan did not convert to Christianity or have an “ah ha” moment walking away from feminism. Instead, she saw a feminist movement that had gone too far in not simply trying to seek equality for women, but in trying to make women like men: "What price women's equality, its beneficiaries, are trying to beat men at their own old power games, and taking their strenuous climb onto and up the corporate ladder, falling into the traps men are beginning to escape, forgoing life's satisfactions basic for men and women, and shortening their own lives.”

To Friedan, the first stage of feminism had won. Great strides were made in women’s equality both socially and in the workplace. But now her call was to stem the excesses of the movement, based in large part from the many disillusioned women she was hearing from regularly. “I hear such sullenness from some younger women who are now living their person hood as women as if this somehow excludes all those emotions, capacities, needs that have to do with having babies, mothering children, making a home, loving and being loved, dependence and independence, softness and hardness, strength and weakness, in the family.”

 Friedan is making my case for a full and free choice for women to stay at home and enjoy the fruit of motherhood, without feeling like somehow they are missing out. When in reality all of the qualities of truly being feminine are found in those who accept as their primary role that of being wives and mothers to their family. For Friedan, “the movement to equality and the person of women isn’t finished until motherhood is a fully free choice.”  

Although Betty Friedan and I are not close to being on the same page, we can both agree that an equal respect for all persons is an appropriate ideal. Jesus and Paul were the original pioneers of giving dignity to women and the apostle Paul makes it  clear that, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus" {Galatians 3:27-28}. There should be equality of person hood for all people. But women are not men, and we carry about in our body and mind a structure that makes us ideal for nurturing a family, not putting in hours at work trying to climb the corporate ladder. Both nature and the Bible argue for having Christian women stay at home and raise the next generation of godly offspring.

What is really sad is the fact that most of today's Christian women haven't even opened their eyes to the destruction women leaving their homes has had on society. They are doing everything they can to get on the treadmill of a full-time career without taking into consideration becoming a wife and mother. Ask a little girl what she wants to do when she grows up and she will rarely say a wife and mother. When asking a homemaker what they do, they answer, "Oh, I am JUST a housewife" as if this job has no value compared to jobs in the workforce.

Okay, feminists and Christians, Friedan has proclaimed the first stage of the movement over, and now is the time to get back into balance. We must once again value what is of most eternal value which is family. Why are we, as believers, training up our daughter to have an education and career, but watering down the value in preparing to become a godly, submissive homemaker? We must think long and hard about this issue. How many people have you won to the Lord in the past ten years? Yet, God said the purpose of marriage is to produce godly offspring. Those children under your roof, they can be used mightily by the Lord. You have more power to affect this society and the Kingdom with those little people under your roof than you do any other way.

If a founder of the feminist movement can see the harm that has been wrought on women by the feminist movement, shouldn't we? Let’s acknowledge, like Friedan, that the first stage is over and the second stage needs thoughtful reflection so as not to end up once again disillusioned and thinking that “the grass is greener on the other side.”

Unfortunately, Betty Friedan’s voice of caution, concern and reason has all but been tossed aside with many preferring to only see her hardened battle words of The Feminine Mystique in her first book. Some in the movement echo her cries, but look for yourself and you will find her more experienced and enlightened words from her second book are almost hidden, or embarrassingly set aside by the movement she helped to found. Try to find one quote from The Second Stage on the Internet. They are few and far between. {It was difficult for us to even find a copy of the original book!} It is time for many to read the book and learn from the many personal stories she gives of those who could not find fulfillment just because they chased a very bad dream.   

Be not deceived; God is not mocked:
 for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
Galatians 6:7

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Pondering Public Schooling?

If you are pondering public schooling for your children, I encourage you to seek the Lord and His wisdom in this crucial decision. Read 2 Timothy 2 for insight. Here, let me help you. Verses 16 commands this: "But shun profane and vain babblings; for they will increase unto more ungodliness."  Verse 22 tells us to "Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart." Verse 23 reiterates verse 16, "But foolish and unlearned questions avoid, knowing that they do gender strifes." Then how about this verse from Romans 12:9, "Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good." Finally, Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals" from I Corinthians 15:33.

Many Christian parents are wondering what went wrong with their children. They raised them in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord when they were growing up. However, around the age from 18 to 22, they have completely walked away from the Lord and they have no clue why.

Scripture is VERY clear about where Christians should hang out and who they should avoid. Our best friends should be believers who lift us up spiritually. He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed {Proverbs 13:20}. What we listen to and watch should mostly be holy and pure {Philippians 4:8}. Who we learn from should be steeped in biblical wisdom. Children are sponges. They believe easily and trust completely. We are repeatedly warned to avoid false teachers. False teachers are teachers who teach false things. The public school is full of these types of teachers. {False things meaning they are completely opposed to things of the Lord and His ways.} 

Giving your children from ages five to 21 to strangers who have no love for the Lord, teach many things contrary to God's Word and are being influenced by friends who engage in worldly entertainments is extremely risky at best and warned about in Scripture.

Yes, I know it is easier to send your children to "free" schooling all day long but you MUST count the cost of this free schooling. They have taken God completely out, rewritten history and teach that we came from monkeys, profane and vain babblings, just what the Word warns us against.

God clearly states that one of the prime purposes of marriage is to produce godly offspring. We are to be the ones teaching and training them or, at least, other believers who love God and desire to live holy, separate lives from the world's ways. My admonition to you is to think and pray carefully about who you give your precious children to all day. Who is teaching them, what is being taught, and what is your long term hope and prayer for your children? This is a high and holy calling and should not be taken lightly.

Do you now know that being the world's 
friend is being God's enemy?
James 4:4