When I was growing up, my mom had a very dear friend who she was very close to. She was a terrible housekeeper, however. When I would babysit, I would clean the kitchen for her and it would take hours. Everything was a mess. It would be a terrible place to live in.
When my children were growing up, we had a neighbor who was the same way. I sent a young woman who was helping me when I had four small children and Ken was traveling half the year to clean her house one time. She said it was terrible. She found dog poop on the floor, it was infested with fleas, and smelled badly. My children detested the days that she was the driver for the carpool. Her car smelled like vomit and it was trashed.
One of the reasons for being a keeper at home is to take care of the home, to keep it neat and tidy. It is important to train your children help you keep it this way. I realize that it is MUCH more difficult when you have small children and it is almost impossible to keep the house orderly but simply do what you can with the energy you have. Get rid of clutter. We don't need nearly as many things as we have. Your children don't need many toys. God is a God of order and discipline and we must strive to be this way also.
However, spending time raising godly children is much more important than a perfectly spotless home. These are from the words of Marilee Horton, "I had another friend who kept the messiest house in town, rarely got a meal together on time, ironed what clothes the children needed right before the school bus came. While maintaining better control than that is important to me it wasn't to her. Every day when the kids go home she sat and leisurely listened to their chatter. With four children this could take hours, all the 'time-killing' made me nervous but in the long run I learned a valuable lesson from her. The art of communication takes time and when the children feel they are worth it, the atmosphere is set at secure."
I still think a mother should do everything she can to keep her home as neat and tidy as possible by not wasting time watching television and playing on the computer!
One of the reasons for being a keeper at home is to take care of the home, to keep it neat and tidy. It is important to train your children help you keep it this way. I realize that it is MUCH more difficult when you have small children and it is almost impossible to keep the house orderly but simply do what you can with the energy you have. Get rid of clutter. We don't need nearly as many things as we have. Your children don't need many toys. God is a God of order and discipline and we must strive to be this way also.
However, spending time raising godly children is much more important than a perfectly spotless home. These are from the words of Marilee Horton, "I had another friend who kept the messiest house in town, rarely got a meal together on time, ironed what clothes the children needed right before the school bus came. While maintaining better control than that is important to me it wasn't to her. Every day when the kids go home she sat and leisurely listened to their chatter. With four children this could take hours, all the 'time-killing' made me nervous but in the long run I learned a valuable lesson from her. The art of communication takes time and when the children feel they are worth it, the atmosphere is set at secure."
I still think a mother should do everything she can to keep her home as neat and tidy as possible by not wasting time watching television and playing on the computer!
But all things should be done decently and in order.
I Corinthians 14:40
Danielle · 585 weeks ago
My mom kept an immaculate home... All 3 of us kids would say she was borderline OCD about it. My mom collected antiques and fine furniture, she did have knit knacks, but not a TON like some homes. And they were NICE knit knacks, not dollar tree knit knacks lol. I guess you could call it decor?
I'm thankful we grew up in a home that was immaculate! And we had a dog and a cat. My mom vacuumed probably once a day. At one time she did have a cleaning lady come in. LOL we all would have to clean before she came because my mom didn't want the lady to see it "dirty". Yeah, okay, mom, the house was never dirty. Well except the kids bedrooms lol. We rebelled!
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FABBY · 585 weeks ago
Always a great post! Have a nice weekend.
FABBY
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Carlotta · 585 weeks ago
As if having a pigstye for a home equals good parenting and a clean home equals bad parenting. Good parenting is keeping a clean home and training your children too.
Messy homes are usually due to a lack of skill or will. I have kept clean homes working doubles 6 days a week and going to college full time, running several businesses, chronically ill, injuried, pregnant, selling homes, moving, small children underfoot and a husband gone on business.
I am setting a standard not lowering them. It is awful to see women who are Christians, homemakers or home schoolers and you cringe using their bathroom.
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Jo · 585 weeks ago
I never go to bed at night unless the dishes are done, the lounge is back looking neat and tidy. There is nothing worse than waking in the morning to see a pile of dirty greasy dishes in the sink and having to tackle it - its depressing. I always make sure the bed is made in the morning and I never go off to work unless the kitchen is clean and tidy. It means when I come home from work the house is welcoming and cosy without mess or chaos (it makes coming home a joy). It isn’t hard to do if you have a routine and stick to it. My husband likes to live in a clean and tidy home (he isn’t a messy person either) and I made sure that is the way it is - it is very achievable, even for working mothers. Once you have order it is much easier to keep order, but you do need to be disciplined and not lazy otherwise things can start to slip.
When my children were little I had brightly coloured boxes and at the end of the day (before dinner and bath) I would get them to place all their toys in the boxes. It didn’t take long before they could do it themselves. If they cooked in the kitchen, they had to clean up their mess. It isn’t hard to teach children to clean up after themselves. Now I have two very tidy adult children who have their own tidy homes.
Our homes should be a place to retreat and find peace and calmness, this is hindered if it is messy and dirty. Just think - would you feel ok about inviting Jesus into your home?
Loving been his wife · 585 weeks ago
For some people even with medication just staying on top of their depression is a full time job; sadly!
Also some people get married have children and then fall victim to depression in their late 20-30's. I know of a lot of people that this has happened to it is so sad to watch!!!
Just a thought!
Loving been his wife · 585 weeks ago
Also, I know that this is going to sound funny but if I put an apron on as soon as I am dressed for the day, I get way more done.
The apron helps me to stay on track; there is something about my apron that just has the wonderful effect on me!
I would love to know if anyone else feels that way???? I live with dreadful anxiety (not the form of anxiety that you get from thinking anything bad but the other one) so sometimes staying on track with my day is very hard, but if I have my *To Do List* and my beloved *Apron* on; my day is a breeze. It feels so good to have a place where I can say that out loud.
Another thing I do to help is I read as much about my career as a Keeper of my Home as I can, I also down load a lot of videos from the internet so I can learn more ways to do a better job; and my prayer everyday is Lord please help me to be a better Keeper of my Home today than I was yesterday! God always hears and helps; I could never do this on my own!
oxo
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